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Give Them Their Flowers

Give Them Their Flowers Before Time is Done I'm not going to lie, I thought this saying was talking about literal flowers. Perhaps, maybe it still is, but I'll tell you why I'm deciding to write about it. The saying hit me the other day while I was complimenting a friend, and afterwards, something totally different came to mind. With my interpretation, the flowers is symbolic to appreciating someone's presence and their soul before their time is up on earth. To give them flowers is to publically and privately acknowledge, to give compliments, to tell them how much they mean to you, to show your gratitude towards them, to be an encouragement, to be a helping hand. It is simply to love and honor and be grateful of the one you so-call care for, whether it's your Parents, Siblings, Nieces or Nephews, Friends, Spouse, or whoever...tell them what they really mean to you. And no, I'm not talking about going off on them. That's not pretty flowers,

Who Are You? (Understanding childhood emotional abandonment and neglect and it's effects into adulthood)

Emotional Traumas and its effects Why we should really talk about Childhood emotional abuse and neglect When I wrote Guide Me Home, I didn't plan on touching the topic of childhood traumas, like Emotional neglect and abandonment aside from physical child abuse. It just happened to come out that way. What I found even more interesting is that as I did my research on the subject, I found that there are so many people that I know personally who are in the same boat as the characters written in my book. As I crafted this story, I mixed both research and my imagination for correlation purposes and found that having experiences like these are not easily fixable, BUT, they are not impossible to overcome.  However, when this kind of abuse occurs, it leaves an unwanted handprint, like a stamp on one's psyche, creating a distorted view about themselves after the trauma has happened, so much so, that the effects have worked greatly against the victim well into adulthood, making it

Breaking Habits

Giving up is so easy, especially when you've never had anyone or developed any reason to help keep you motivated. Last year, during the beginning of my self-discovery, I did a few self-help exercises to figure out things about myself. Even though a lot of them were positive, I also had to address the negatives--one of them being the lack of discipline. I forget exactly how I got to that particular exercise but the thing was, I discovered that I have a problem with it. I have a problem with being consistent, persistent, and dedicated to things that are actually GOOD for me and to me. I noticed that my habits were always a stop and go situation and rarely did I ever complete a thing before moving on to something else. Like exercising, or eating right, reading my bible more, or any ole thing that I really wanted to set my mind to and execute, I'd start and then stop. Start and Stop. The cycle continued. I took a moment to write down where the root of this issue came from an

Can't Nobody Do It Like You

CAN'T NOBODY DO IT LIKE YOU So yesterday, I wrote a Facebook post that seemed to have resonated with a lot of people. Got a couple of shares. Check it out below. Ana Kitty Larrieux Gibson 20 hrs  ·  This is for anyone who stopped doing what they thought they should be   doing because there are others who do the same thing. Take note. The fact is, there are a gazillion people in the same field as you, doing exactly what you like to do, HOWEVER, it shouldn't stop you from pursuing that passion/goal/dream because they're in your field. Find what sets you apart and work it like you're the only one who knows how. Think of all the pizza joints we got. Do you think any of them sa id, "nah im not going to do it because it's already being done." NO. They went through with it because they believed their pizza has a taste that no one else does. And they work that angle. DeVon Franklin says it best. Your difference is your destiny. So don'

Make your 30s count!

Hey guys, I'm back briefly. I've been pretty busy these last two weeks so I haven't had time to sit and write anything. But today, I just wanted to share something that has been on my mind in the midst of my absence. BEING 30 years old. Now, I've been 30 for..1,2, carry the 5, subtract the......8 months now and I must say, i'm enjoying every ounce of it. It's crazy cause I've heard people dread turning 30 and I promised myself that I would not put myself through that kind of mental drainage when my time came. There's no point. What i've learned so far is: to be myself unapologetically. To quit worrying about what others may think or say about me. To live in my honest truth and to live my life to the fullest. Have I mastered them all yet? NO, but I do my best in making a conscious effort in doing so. Being 30 opened my eyes about myself and i'm in a state of transitioning so that I can get the most out of my life. I told a friend

Obsessed and Stressed

This might be a long one guys, BUT IT'S GOOD! Are we obsessed with pretending to be ok when we're not? I think so. Don't take this as facts as I'm only sharing my opinion based off of observation. This is the gospel according to Ana Gibson. Lately, I've been doing some thinking. It dawned on me, seeing the many celebrity deaths and the fact that mental health is so serious and how stress and depression, anxiety, and paranoia is regularly plaguing our society, I can't help but to think that, in some parts, I feel that there is a subconscious obsession with the need of having it all together even if we don't. I fall into the same trap sometimes too, unfortunately. Let me explain. Take for instance, Instagram and Facebook. It's a world full of "Life is Good," "I ain't worried bout nuthin," "#relationshipgoals," feeding into our desire of having it all together. There's a silent obsession wit

Your Ugly Has Beauty, Too (Forgiveness)

Forgive me, y'all. This one might be a lil long today. Ugly truths are hard to confront and mirrors weren't made to just reflect outer beauty but to show the uglier sides of us too. I want to be honest with you guys right now. Last summer, I found myself in a real funk. This was a few months after I had done my When Hearts Align Concert which, by the way, I had already felt like I failed at it. Add on some other factors like being a stay at home mom (which is a job within itself), a wife, not having any real quality time with my husband, especially the physical part of it, my best friend coming to stay with us for a while (although she was a tremendous help for us), not having any money (and I don't mean joint account money. I mean my own, actually working for it so that I can spend it how I want to, money), feeling a little lost and not sure of myself, constant negative reminders of being a failure (That's what I told myself. I know it's not true), it playe

Silence Means To Listen

You guys, I've been struggling to figure out what to write over the last week. I postponed yesterday because the blog I WAS going to post just wasn't sitting right with me. Today, I still don't even know where i'm going with it. Perhaps nothing major really even needs to be said. I haven't had much on my mind as of late which is unusual. I don't think it's a bad thing, it's just something that I had to pay attention to and accept. That's a part of self-discovery and self-acceptance too. I think if anything, what I'd like to relay to you all today is we all go through moments of silence and it doesn't necessarily mean that something is wrong. I think it ultimately means that God wants us to just listen for once. So i'm listening. What have I been listening to? The real person inside of me trying to grow through the concrete walls of my soul like that little rose that sprouts through the cracks of concrete sidewalks. First things first,